I love parenting (most of the time). Lots of days it feels good to guide my children and help them be their best selves. It makes me feel useful and needed. It adds to my sense of purpose in the world.
But what happens when I exchange mothering for smothering?
Is it possible to be too helpful and too useful to our kids?
Educational Consultant Jane Kristoffy says yes, it is possible to be extra in our parenting. Whether it’s jumping in to solve a problem your child created, calling the teacher to ask for a retest, or organizing the friend group so your kid isn’t left out, we can all be a little too much sometimes.
Trying to make our kids’ lives easier, sometimes our good intentions backfire.
I have to be honest. This interview made me squirm so much I wanted to leave the room. I stayed because I know I needed this message. Maybe you do too.
The bottom line is this. If we want our kids to be independent and resilient, we have to let them fail. (Ouch!)
In this video Jane shares:
- What creates helicopter parents
- How we prevent our kids from learning important life lessons
- Why kids need honest feedback at home
- How kids learn from failures and set backs
- A new perspective on the teen years
- How to stop trying to be perfect
- Ways to encourage children to take responsibility for themselves at any age
- How to get yourself out of a job (as a parent)—and why you want that!
Jane will help you to realize why you want to let go and what you need to do to help your child grow into the person they’re meant to be.
Did you squirm too? I’d love to hear, in the comments below.
See you soon,
Teaching living skills for every age and stage of development: https://www.righttrackeducation.ca/post/does-your-child-have-life-skills